Always on edge and can't relax?

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We're here with our weekly 3 things...

1️⃣ A question from our community

2️⃣ Our actionable tips

3️⃣ A resource from our toolkit

1. The question

“I’m always on edge and can’t relax, and I just know my anxiety is spilling over onto my girls and I hate it! What can I do to stop passing it onto them?” 

2. Our answer

Oh friend, we’ve both been where you are.

It sounds like you likely had some anxiety passed onto you from your own parents, and yeah…

Our kids definitely absorb our energy.

We often talk about co-regulation, but we also have to keep in mind that co-dysregulation is a very real thing and perpetuates generational cycles.

But here’s the deal…

Anxiety is NOT the enemy.

It’s actually your body’s way of trying to keep you safe (watch Inside Out 2 if you haven’t yet). 

Yeah, anxiety is overly dramatic and a bit too clingy, but deep down, it’s just trying to help.

So instead of fighting it or trying to eliminate it altogether, try this…

➡️ When you recognize your anxiety revving up (think thought spirals, tight chest, quick breath) pause and say out loud:

“Hi, Anxiety. I see you there and I know you’re just trying to protect me. I don’t need you to go away altogether, but I do need you to quiet down.” 

It might sound silly, but giving your anxiety a voice (and more importantly, BOUNDARIES) is one of the fastest ways to get out of the storm and observe it from the outside.

It moves you out of your survival brain and back into your prefrontal cortex.

Your emotional temperature will start to come down, and THAT’S when your kids will stop absorbing your anxiety, and start feeling more anchored by your calm instead.

Now, for many of us, a quick pause and mindset shift like this can work wonders. 

But if your nervous system is stuck in high-alert mode (like ours used to be), these strategies will only take you so far.

And that’s where our 12-Week Family Reset Program comes in.

3. From our toolkit

We created our 12-Week Reset for parents who know the kind of calm and connection that they want… but just can’t seem to get there.

And spoiler alert… it’s because their nervous system won’t let them!

Our 12-Week Reset isn’t another parenting course full of hacks and scripts (though we’ve definitely got some great ones). 

It’s a science-backed, guided therapeutic approach built around the Safe and Sound Protocol (SSP), a listening therapy that retunes your nervous system to combat anxiety, depression, emotional reactivity, ADHD, and more.

So if you’ve been stuck in survival mode and nothing else has seemed to work, this is the reset you need.

We’ve got a few spots opening up in the coming weeks, and we’re currently accepting applications.

👉 You can learn more here!

Listen… your nervous system deserves the same support that you’re always giving to everyone else. 

And we’re here to guide you through it. 🙂

❤️ Jenilee & Greg