Got Risky Kids?

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We're here with our weekly 3 things...

1️⃣ A question from our community

2️⃣ Our actionable tips

3️⃣ A resource from our toolkit

1. The question

“How do I stop myself from freaking out when my kids do risky things? I know it’s important to let them take risks so they can learn limits and grow their confidence, but I just can’t seem to chill out and give them that space. It’s like my fear takes over and I know I’m holding them back from experiencing the world the way they need to.”

2. Our answer

Yup, we get it. 

When your kid climbs too high, runs off a bit too far, or is dangling from something that kind of makes your heart stop, you don’t just worry… it’s like your whole body has a HUGE visceral reaction.

👉 It’s your nervous system doing its job. 

The second it sees something that might be too risky, the alarm bells start going off. You get an elevated heart rate, shallow breathing, tension in your shoulders, and a brain that screams at you…  “Do something right now!”

And here’s the tricky part…

Your kids don’t just see your reaction… they feel it. 

Their nervous system is wired to sync up with yours, so if you gasp, shout, or panic (even just a little) they don’t just think, “This is unsafe.” 

👉 They feel unsafe. 

It makes them more wobbly, less confident, and yeah… more likely to melt down.

This is co-regulation in action, but in the wrong direction (i.e., co-dysregulation).

So here’s the shift…

You can’t stop your nervous system from reacting, but you CAN learn to interrupt it. Basically, you just need to grow hyper-aware of your reactivity, and instead of letting the fear explode out of you, take JUST 10 SECONDS to regulate yourself.

Try this the next time you notice that panic rising…

1️⃣ PAUSE. Notice your body. Are your shoulders up by your ears? Is your jaw tight? Fists clenched? Just label it… “I’m feeling anxious.”

2️⃣ RESET. Take just one physiological sigh (inhale through the nose, quick second inhale, long exhale through the mouth). Drop your shoulders. Unclench your jaw. Wiggle your fingers.

3️⃣ RESPOND. Intentionally choose calm signals. Soften your tone, slow down your words, keep your eyes warm. If your child looks at you, you want them to see safety… not panic.

It sounds almost too simple… but this 10-second pause is what’ll help break the cycle.

This way, instead of your kid absorbing your panic, they get to borrow your calm. And THAT is what’ll help them take risks safely and build the confidence you’re looking for.

And if you think your nervous system needs more support…

3. From our toolkit

Listen, we’ve been there (more times than we’d like to admit). 

👉 The yelling, the guilt, the chaos that takes over.

But what finally helped us turn a corner wasn’t “trying harder.” It was learning actual science-backed tools to overcome our triggers, release stress, and build a nervous system that could actually stay calm when our kids needed it most.

And that’s what we’ve packed into our Regulation Bundle.

✅ Stay calm when your kids lose it (so you don’t spiral with them)

✅ Stop reacting out of stress and start responding with intention

✅ Reduce the overwhelm and finally feel like you’re back in control

✅ Create a calmer home where your kids feel safe, seen, and connected

💬 “Your workshops completely changed how I respond to my kids. I feel more in control and my yelling has almost disappeared!”
– Jess

Right now, you can grab the full bundle and save over 50%!

👉 Use this link to learn more.

As always, thanks for being here, and please don’t hesitate to let us know if you have any questions.

❤️ Jenilee & Greg
Happy Human Life

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