"I lost it and can't stop thinking about it"

Hello, Happy Human! 👋

We're here with our weekly 3 things...

1️⃣ A question from our community

2️⃣ Our actionable tips

3️⃣ A resource from our toolkit

1. The question

“I totally lost it on my son (he made a huge mess of my bathroom) and I haven’t stopped thinking about it. I need to handle these things better but nothing is changing.”

2. Our answer

So many of us (we’re confident it’s ALL of us) have been there.

We’re all so rushed, overwhelmed, and under-resourced… so when we walk into a huge unexpected mess… we snap.

And then the guilt comes rushing in.

But you know the deal…

You are NOT a bad parent. You just had a very human moment and you CAN come back from it.

Because it’s never about the rupture.

It’s all about the REPAIR.

We’re going to mess up, so what matters most is what happens next.

We need to come back, reconnect, and show our kids what true repair looks like.

Basically, when our kids see us take responsibility and repair with warmth, it rebuilds trust, and ultimately, emotional resilience for EVERYONE.

They learn that when ruptures happen, that it’s not their fault. That they’re not alone in it all or too much.

That they’re loved.

And the best part…

When you practice repair regularly, you’ll start snapping less because effective repair rewires our nervous system and rewrites old patterns.

So… what does science-backed repair actually look like?

3. From our toolkit

What should you say after you yell?

How do you come back in a way that heals instead of shames?

What if your kid shuts you out or says, “You’re mean, I don’t like you”?

What if you’re still dysregulated and not ready to repair yet?

That’s what our 3 Steps to Repair workshop is for.

You'll learn:

✅ What to say in the heat of the moment (and what not to)

✅ How to repair with younger kids, older kids, and even partners

✅ How to use repair as a tool for long-term cycle-breaking

✅ When to repair (timing matters!)

✅ And how to use mistakes as doorways to deeper connection

And for the next week, you can grab our ‘3 Steps to Repair’ workshop for 50% off!

👉 Use this link to learn more

You are allowed to be imperfect and mess up.

But every time you come back with love, humility, and repair…

You’re teaching your kid exactly what it means to be emotionally safe, resilient, and connected.

And THAT is the most important work you could ever do.

As always, thanks for being here. 

❤️ Jenilee & Greg

P.S. Members of The Collective (our private support community) have an all-access pass to our library of self-paced workshops (like ‘3 Steps to Repair’), monthly live webinars (and replays), archive of digital downloads, and personalized support.

You can join us risk-free for 7 days.  Use this link to learn more about our three membership plans.

We’re here if you have any questions. 🙂