It's how YOU show up

“It’s not what happens to you, but how you react to it that matters.”
— Epictetus

In all honesty, I used to believe the opposite.

I thought if my kids would just behave differently, I’d be calmer.

If mornings were smoother…
If there were fewer meltdowns…
If everyone listened the first time…

Then I could show up as the parent I wanted to be.

But over the years I’ve learned something really important…

I don’t actually control what happens in my house.

I don’t control whether my kids wake up cranky.
I don’t control sibling fights.
I don’t control bad timing, spills, or a meltdown over socks.

What I can control, however… is how I show up to those moments.

For years, when the chaos hit, I’d spiral right along with everyone else.

I’d get louder. Shorter. More reactive.

And then… I’d sit with guilt, wondering why I couldn’t “just be calmer.”

But a big shift came when I stopped trying to control my kids, and started working on controlling MYSELF.

Noticing the tension in my body. Making the intentional choice to pause, slow down, and create space between what was triggering me and my response to it.

And listen… I’m far from perfect… but I’ve changed SO much.

And this is the part I really want you to hear:

Your progress in parenting doesn’t come from being better at controlling the chaos that surrounds you.

It ALL comes from strengthening your ability to meet it.

✅ Your mini action step of the week…

The next time something doesn’t go the way you hoped (which yes, will be in about five minutes)...

Force yourself to pause. Ask yourself:

“What part of this is in my control right now?”

Chances are it won’t be the outcome or your kid’s emotional state.

But it WILL be YOUR response.

And asking yourself that one, tiny question, practiced over time, will begin to change how you’re able to then show up.

👉 If you’re looking for more…

This is exactly the kind of work we do inside our 12-Week Family Reset Program.

At the foundation of our 12-Week Reset is the Safe and Sound Protocol (SSP)... an evidence-based therapeutic listening program that’ll rewire your nervous system from the inside out so pausing, staying present, and thoughtfully responding becomes more natural and accessible (not something you have to force yourself to do).

But our 12-Week Reset doesn’t stop there.

The SSP is paired with our 12-week guided curriculum and 1:1 support, so you’re not just feeling calmer, you’re learning how to apply that regulation to your biggest parenting challenges.

• setting and holding boundaries without yelling or guilt
• repairing after rupture in a way that actually builds trust
• reducing sibling conflict and daily power struggles
• working as a team with your partner
• breaking generational patterns that keep repeating
  

We’ve supported dozens of families through our 12-Week Reset, and what we consistently hear is that parents:

• feel less reactive overall
• recover faster when they do get triggered
• feel more confident handling hard moments
• and experience a calmer, more connected home
  

So if you feel like your nervous system is stuck in survival mode, our 12-Week Reset may be your right next step.

We’re currently accepting applications, so if you’re interested…

👉 You can learn more and apply here

If you have any questions, don’t hesitate to hit reply and let us know. We’re here to help you think it through.

And as always, thanks for being here

— Greg