Why won’t my kid just listen?!

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We're here with our weekly 3 things...

1️⃣ A question from our community

2️⃣ Our actionable tips

3️⃣ A resource from our toolkit

1. The question

“How do I get my kid to actually listen without yelling, bribing, or losing my sh*t?”

2. Our answer

Yeah… so this is pretty much every parent ever.

And if you’ve found yourself saying things like…

“If you don’t put your shoes on RIGHT NOW, no TV for the rest of your life!”

… you’re in good company. 👋

So here’s the deal…

Kids will have a really hard time listening when they feel threatened.

Instead, they respond well to safety.

You can imagine their little nervous systems as having a built-in security scanner. It reports back…

Is this person safe, calm, and connected… or scary, stressed, and snappy?

And if they feel threatened (even slightly), their brain will shift into fight or flight mode, and the listening part of their brain (aka the prefrontal cortex) kind of goes offline.

That’s why connection is the prerequisite for cooperation.

Before they’ll follow your lead, they need to feel like you’re on their side.

So… check your face, soften your voice, drop to their level, make a warm observation about what they’re doing.

THEN set the boundary or deliver the “ask.”

For example…

“Whoa… looks like you’re building something awesome over here. These towers are SO tall. You’ve been hard at work! Okay… it’s time to clean up now and get ready. Should we start with the blocks or the books?”

It’s a small shift, but it makes a HUGE difference, because when their nervous system stays calm, their ears stay open.

And yeah… we know it’s easier said than done in the chaos of everyday life.

That’s why we put together something to help...

3. From our toolkit

🎁 This week’s resource is our ‘Rapid-Fire Q&A’ Webinar Summary.

This isn’t just another handout. Instead, think of it like your go-to parenting toolkit when:

• Your kid won’t listen
• Your partner parents completely differently
• Bedtime has you sleeping with your kid every night
• Family members question your parenting
• You know the tools, but still lose your cool

Inside, we break down the top 5 questions we get from parents, sharing actionable tools, scripts, and nervous system science in plain English.

It’s digestible, printable, and only $5.

💬 “Your webinar summaries are so useful and I can’t thank you enough for offering them. It’s a no-brainer $5 every month!”

👉 You can grab the summary here.

To the members of The Collective…

DO NOT BUY. You’ll find the summary waiting for you within your Happy Human Library.

Interested in joining us in The Collective to get instant access to our workshops, webinars, digital downloads, and personalized support?

You can learn more about joining us risk-free using this link.

That’s all for now!

Thanks for being here and we’ll see you next week. 🙂

❤️ Jenilee & Greg